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It has been nearly 4 years since I decided to quit drinking. I just realised that that is a long time! Go me.

But here I am, still wondering why my life is a bit shit.

I think that part of me believed that if I quit drinking, everything else would magically improve. And it really did, but maybe not in the extreme, Hollywood, unrealistic way that I had envisaged. There was a part of me that secretly thought that if I quit drinking, I would magically become a size 8, win the lottery and possibly discover a rainbow coloured flying unicorn who farted glitter and shat out gold coins. Because the enormity of quitting drinking must result in some life altering reward, right?

But I think that the key thing about breaking unhealthy habits is that the rewards aren’t always really tangible. I know that no longer drinking alcohol has had a massively positive impact on my health (how can it not?) but because I didn’t drop 4 dress sizes, I felt kind of cheated. Which may seem ridiculous when I type it, but it is genuinely how I felt back then. I want to understand why. 

So here I am, 4 years later, trying to break it down and help myself get out of my winter downer and to really try to understand why I think my life is a bit shit.

Lots has changed since I quit drinking but I’m not really sure what is down to removing alcohol from my life and what is just the natural passage of time so I’m going to make a list.  I like lists.

 

Result of not drinking Result of life
Better sleep Job change (I hate the job though – need to change that)
Improved health
Vastly improved sense of self
Better awareness of those around me
Much better Mummy
More patient
More comfortable with who I am More comfortable with who I am
Saved money
Less self loathing
Less guilt
More accountability
Vastly reduced circle of friends – you would be AMAZED at how many people drop you once you’re “no fun anymore”. Fascinating. Vastly reduced circle of friends – bloody COVID.

 

That was surprisingly easy to write with very little thought.

I’m still not sure why I’m stuck in the mindset of my life being a bit shit though. Is it winter blues? Is it the fact that I didn’t get my Hollywood film ending when I quit drinking? Is it my job and the circumstances in and around that which are adding to the general feeling of unhappiness and lethargy?

I have signed up for a new course but have been procrastinating (brilliantly or hideously, depending on your perspective) so am going to start it now and see how I feel once I have taken that step.

I think this is why I wanted to set up Carnelias; to have a safe space to discuss and talk about this kind of stuff with a group of friendly, non-judgemental women who would challenge and support me to work out what’s going on and what I could do to step out of my funk.

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